Want to know what one of the greatest secrets was? Self esteem. Whoa, big shocker there, right? He stated over and over that he lived in a glass house. This glass house was formed, because he fought to have no secrets. So often, we underestimate the destruction of secrets. They eat you from the inside out. We need to be an open book. Think about it. When you have a secret, it draws your attention and focus. Now, I am not referring to a surprise birthday party, kind of secret. I am referring to the bad secrets. I will not waste too much time defining them, because if you have them, you will know. You see secrets in their nature tend to be bad. Why? Because when you actively go out of your way to isolate yourself, you achieve it. Isolation is horrible, because as I have mentioned before, perception is reality, and you can justify anything if a true friend isn't there to set you straight.
The worst part about this is: the more you invest in secrets, the more they become your identity. And that is a very dangerous thing.
Not convinced to give up that alluring closet life yet?
I can understand that. Let's talk about what it would take. Say you have a secret. Let's pick... cheating on a test. You cheated. You may regret it... let's say you do. But you cheated because it was easy. Copied off the smart girl with the blonde pig-tails and glasses. You gave in to your urge to success via shortcut. You are justifying why you don't have to come clean to anyone. There is no need to come clean, right? It was one time... it won't happen again. Here is your opportunity for decision making.
Decision A: You maintain the facade. No one has to know. You convince yourself it was a one time occurrence and it won't happen again. It does happen again. You were unprepared on an exam and you slip back into cheating. Justification: Just once more. Until next time. This repeats itself until you either become a cheater by nature or your secret is discovered on its own.
Now, there are a lot of assumptions in that scenario. But my point is if you continue to conceal the secret, it tends to get bigger and often becomes a habit. The truth about this scenario, regardless of whether or not you repeat it? It has control over you. You must conceal it and lie to yourself about whether or not the act was justified.
Decision B: You reveal the secret. You receive the punishment that is due. It is labeled a mistake. There is no justification necessary, because you and everyone else are aware of the mistake. You can learn from it.
Secrets are mistakes waiting to be brought to light. Don't allow yourself to fall prey to the darkness of your closet. You are more than your secrets. Let it out, leave it behind, and grow.
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