The True Solution

I am going to be honest with you.  I try to make my blog appealing to most people regardless of faith, gender, or otherwise, because I firmly believe that low self-esteem is an epidemic regardless of your background.  Unfortunately, in this effort I have pushed aside a key component of self-esteem.  This of course is my opinion, so take it as you may, but I firmly believe every person has a hole in their heart that they are trying to fill.  Most people believe that this hole will be filled with money, lack of stress, or a spouse.  But the reality is that we were designed to have a need for Christ.  Until you realize that your purpose on this earth is to worship God and that hole in your heart cannot be filled any other way, you will be forever searching. 

One of the most common misconceptions is that a spouse will complete you.  And even worse so, your spouse was designed to complete you.  This belief will lead you into two results: a very unhappy marriage or many divorces.  Every person is flawed and the more we look to our spouse as having the responsibility of completing these flaws, the more they will be discovered lacking.  By design, we have flaws so we can rely on Him and He can get the glory.  Him, and only Him alone will give you the self-worth you desire.  Without an understanding of His reign and our status as his children, our value will always be built on our own works.  Our works will never measure up, because we weren't designed to rely on our own strength. 

The truth is that we were made incomplete, but that completion doesn't come from this world.  It comes from God.  Humans innately desire to worship.  That is why there are so many addictions in this world.  When we aren't worshipping God, we find something to take His place.  And I will tell you that the more "things" and people we try to fill God's place, the more dissatisfied and depressed we will become.

This is a reality that many people are already aware of, or many people are unwilling to accept.  But it is, just the same, a huge fragment of self-esteem I refuse to neglect.  If there is any one piece of growth that we should hold onto from this blog, it is this one.  We cannot be completed in our own strength, in our spouse's strength or in our possessions.  Only in Him can we be complete.  Only in Him will we be found.

"My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." -2 Corinthians 12:9